I will clarify once and for all, what I’ve touched on briefly, that trauma is not the root cause of narcissism: Ungraciousness is.
A narcissist is not created by trauma. PTSD is created by trauma. Some forms of advanced sociopathy can be triggered by great trauma, which overloads the mind’s circuit & ability to process the emotions of a situation without any rational, loving explanation.
The sociopath then is not necessarily forced into evil, but disgraced into it.
In the way that an artist must learn to study the ins & outs of a scene before painting, then begin to speak about those details, while knowing what the image is, so must we study the emotional root causes for our experience.
What happens is that certain injustices (or prolonged traumatic childhoods) can (but don’t always) get lodged within a child or person, and become the narcissist’s “justification” for their sociopathy.
“Who cares about justice? I’ll do what I want, and you won’t hurt me.”
That is, they reject the divine, by falling from grace.
Unable or unwilling to see the world as just any longer, the sociopath rejects a higher appreciation for divinity. Divinity then becomes a poem they write on their steering wheels, to prove to their parole officer that they’re … Well—at least, “trying” to get off drugs.
The mind has yet to process the details of those emotions, due to a lack of understanding, effort, and/or emotional development at the time; so, they exist as repressed memories (opportunities) within the experience of the sociopath to grow, and require forgiveness … Same as everyone else.
Some people experience insane injustices; some people experience minor injustices, and believe the world now owes them favors for all eternity. It is entirely relative; it is not necessarily tragic, and the trigger for ungraciousness is not necessarily caused by anything predictable.
The unforgiveness will stay, until the sociopath is able or chooses to revisit, and reprocess the emotions they have about the foundation of their viewpoint on the world.
“The world is a cruel place. I don’t care; ‘hope’ never stopped dad from molesting me when I was younger!”
Generally, they won’t let go; they will remain evil.
Studying their trauma, understanding it from a non-egocentric viewpoint, and then analyzing the motives, root causes, and then appreciating recompense can lead to forgiveness.
Some traumas possibly can’t be healed, except by miraculous faith. And the sociopath therefore clings to its own narcissism:
- Me (or my people) against the world.
We Are All Sociopathic Sometimes
When we are enraged, or injusticed, desperate—we can think of - dirty things.
The diagnosable sociopath is a rebel who uses injustices from its past, to “justify” its destructiveness. Even if this root is subconscious. A psychopath was born narcissistic; the psychopath’s narcissism was not caused by trauma.
How can narcissism be inborn, for some, and every other narcissistic case was created by “trauma”?
This is illogical, and understanding what narcissism is will lead you closer to heaven.
The reality is that the root cause of narcissism is ungraciousness:
- some people are born psychopathic (unable to be grateful)
- some people retort to unprocessed or incomprehensible explanations of traumas to “justify” their ungraciousness
- Therapy can - sometimes help. Love is the answer, but love is not simple, or “giving them presents!!!!” necessarily. It might be the opposite. Every situation is different.
- some people are spoiled, and they are not forced to be grateful, and so they grow up preferring the benefits of ungraciousness and therefore have zero interest in embracing or appreciating discipline; to them, gratitude is a tool for the downtrodden to be exploited, and a gift for the ungracious to take advantage of
Narcissists are filled with addictions, greed, envy, covetousness, and destruction, because they are ungracious. They don’t appreciate little quantities, it is never enough.
They “justify” the ungraciousness with whatever their “reasons” are. And, because they are ungracious, even therapists will be just another tool for the brat to con, and then exploit.
Some narcissism is triggered by a scorned perspective in response to their trauma, but it is nonetheless still a condition & not a disease.
You cannot stop an addict from using drugs, and you can’t stop a narcissist from being ungracious or manipulative toward you (or even to its own therapist).
When push comes to shove, some sociopaths choose to excuse their devilry:
“I was hurt when I was a kid, so I’m going to hurt others; this is the way of life.”
They have fallen from grace—by way of unforgiveness.
They are narcissistic, by choice.
Consider The Scapegoat
Of the most traumatized & targeted individuals, the scapegoat is the prime example that a narcissist is not caused by abuse.
In families with scapegoats, of all the members, it is usually the scapegoat who leaves a conscientious person. The reason for this, is that the scapegoat was forced to be grateful.
The other spoiled brats will grow up to be ungrateful; their ungraciousness will emanate less than holy behaviors, and that means predation. They will receive, and not appreciate it enough; they will say thanks with big doey eyes, and then move on to the next present. They become cute black holes of self-entitled taking.
They eat food for indulgent pleasure over and over, then become overweight; they never have enough alcohol. (or something)
WHAT IT IS—they are ungracious; and lacking divine grace, they are narcissistic: Self-serving.
And narcissism is nothing, if not a metaphor for “selfishness” or “ungratefulness”. Do not over complicate things.
Even the Koran and other spiritual texts refer to narcissists as “the ungracious” and “unconscientious”. You can drag a new term from psych class into the mix, but you aren’t going to change the core simplistic nature of things.
If by “empaths”, you mean “righteous”—they are created by grace. They are gratefulhuman-beings: Modest, balanced, conscientious, loving and true.
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